Let Your Dreams Live


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Everybody has dreams, even if they’re buried deep inside childhood fantasies and so often they are pushed to one side or belittled, and sometimes by the people closest to us. Why let this happen, dreams are what motivate us, they create desire and drive to achieve something or be something that we’ve always wanted to be. They are valuable part of who we are and we all have and need them so,  here’s how to find them and make them come true.

1. Get in touch with your dreams. What do you fantasise about doing with your spare time? What extraordinary future makes you feel a little bit more alive when you imagine yourself in it? What did you dream about when you were a child? Think about it and write it all down.

2. Read books or check out websites relating to your dream. Steep yourself in the stories of people who have done or are doing what you want to do. See how they approached following their own dreams.

3. Establish a community. Make sure you have other people to talk to about your goals that will support you and not doubt your dreams. If there is no one in real life, try sites like www.einsteinfreckle.blogspot.com that let you become friends with people who will not only care about your dreams, but hold you accountable to them. But no matter what, have someone there that truly cares.

4. Identify mental obstacles that stand in the way of your dreams. For example, maybe you’ve always dreamed about becoming a painter, but you were too worried about what people think, or about not making enough money. In this case, your obstacles are ego and finances. Ask yourself honestly: What’s more important, achieving my dreams, or getting respect from my peers, or being financially secure? If I had to choose between my dreams and my other concerns, what would I choose?

5. Make changes in your life. If you’re not already working towards your dreams, you’re probably trapped in a cycle that keeps you locked away from them. Break that cycle if you can – and start to move towards your dreams.

Go get em and make your life what you want it to be.

Simon

Pushing Your Own Limits


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We set our own limits without realising it, we think that when we reach the summit/achieve our goal, that is it , we’ve done it. Yet there is always something else beyond that summit, something higher and out of reach at that moment.

When we open our minds, look at things from a different perspective, we can remove the limitations on our beliefs, expectations and capabilities and we can achieve so much more than we’ve been led to believe.

Take some risks, stretch yourself and your comfort zone so that what used to be scary, beyond reach, impossible is now within your reach and feels very much possible.

Be bold, be brave and take your life to new heights.

Simon

New research into depression


A very interesting piece of research into a potential new depression treatment based around Ghrelin, the ‘Hunger Hormone’, which has natural anti-depressant properties when levels rise due to caloric restriction. This new research is great additional evidence to support the principles in my book around effective fat loss and general mood enhancement and helps my clients understand why they feel good when they follow the principles in my book.

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2014-04/usmc-dri042214.php

Hypnosis for Weight Loss


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There’s no denying it: trying to lose weight can be a long and challenging journey. If you’ve ever tried and failed to lose weight before then you probably know just how frustrating it can be – especially when feelings like stress, low self-esteem, sadness and boredom crop up.

It’s not unusual for people to get into a cycle of dieting, overeating, feeling guilty and dieting again. This is known as ‘yoyo dieting’ and makes weight loss difficult to sustain.

While fad diets and nutrition plans focus on what you put in your mouth and how often, hypnotherapy changes how you feel about what you eat. For instance – on a diet you might eat a carrot and wish you were eating a carrot cake, but with hypnotherapy you can learn to enjoy the carrot and not give that cake a second thought. It might be hard to imagine a world where you’d happily turn down your favourite food for something healthier, but with certain hypnotherapy techniques it may be possible to change your thinking patterns and gain control over cravings in a way that doesn’t depress you.

By targeting the unconscious mind with powerful suggestion techniques, a hypnotherapist will help you develop a new, positive relationship with food and exercise. The aim is to make you feel confident about your body, change any negative thoughts about eating and help you lose weight healthily and responsibly without impacting your emotional wellbeing.

Do I Need To Lose Weight?

A lot of people insist they need to lose weight, whether they’re overweight or not. The truth is, very few people are happy with the shape and size of their bodies, regardless of whether or not they need to lose weight.

According to official statistics, 61.3% of adults and 30% of children in England need to lose weight because they’re overweight or obese.

You may need to lose weight if you:

  • have a body mass index (BMI) of 25 or more
  • are a man and your waist circumference exceeds 37 inches
  • are a woman and your waist circumference exceeds 32 inches
  • have a high body fat percentage for your age and sex
  • have pain in your joints (excess weight puts greater stress on joints)
  • have type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart disease.

To lose weight it’s important to eat less and exercise more. Signs you are overeating include:

  • You eat so fast you do not really taste the flavours in the food or notice your body signalling that it is full.
  • You always eat everything on your plate even if you are full, so as not to waste food (this can be reinforced by parents during childhood).
  • You eat when you are bored or lonely.
  • You eat when you are upset or miserable.
  • You eat to reward yourself (i.e. I’ve done so well at the gym, I deserve this chocolate bar). 

It’s unhealthy to be overweight or obese because you have a higher risk of developing/suffering from:

  • type 2 diabetes
  • high blood pressure
  • high cholesterol
  • heart disease
  • stroke
  • heart attack
  • cancer

Being heavier than average can also have social repercussions, including discrimination, verbal/emotional bullying and even physical abuse. This stigma can intensify the feelings of shame and inadequacy some people feel when they look in the mirror. Feelings like this can lead to:

  • low self-esteem
  • low self-confidence
  • anxiety
  • stress

All of these emotions can quite seriously reduce a person’s quality of life and even have a domino effect on their careers, relationships and everyday experiences.

Body confidence

While it is important for overweight and obese people to lose weight for health reasons, it’s not good to feel down or depressed about it. According to a survey of body image attitudes in the UK, one in four adults say they feel depressed about their bodies and one third of men and women say they wish their bodies looked more like those seen in magazines.

Because body shape and size is so tied in with the western idea of beauty, people are constantly looking for ‘quick fixes’ to cut corners. Diet pills, fad weight loss diets and gruelling exercise regimes are just some of the ways people try to lose weight. What you have to ask yourself is – am I happy doing this? And – can I carry on doing this for the rest of my life?

To lose and keep weight off, you can’t just go on a six week purge and then go back to your previous habits. You have to make real and often major lifestyle changes. This can be hard – after all, sugary, fatty, starchy food tastes good and exercise takes time and effort. What makes weight loss harder is the emotions we associate with certain foods and the act of eating. This is where hypnotherapy techniques may have an advantage over those used by nutritionists and personal trainers – in order to change your body, you need to first change your mind. You have to ask yourself – why am I unhappy with my body, and why can’t I lose weight?

Why Can’t I Lose Weight?

Lots of people try and fail to lose weight for a huge number of reasons. These reasons are often unconscious, making it hard for us to overcome them. Hypnotherapy aims to expose these reasons, allowing clients to finally break through barriers that may have been preventing them from losing weight for many years.

Common reasons you might find it hard to successfully lose weight include:

You Comfort Eat

When we are babies we learn to associate feeding with the comfort of our mothers. Some experts believe this association never really leaves us. As we grow older and we take on more responsibilities, life can get more stressful and food can offer a reversion back to those early days of complete dependency. If you’ve ever found yourself reaching for a chocolate bar after a busy day, or ordering a take-away when you feel lonely and sad, then you might be a comfort eater.

As a comfort eater you will find it more difficult to lose weight because you’ve let food become your coping mechanism and without it, you might not know how to deal with your emotions.

You Lie To, or Delude Yourself

You might insist you hardly eat a thing but if you’re overweight or obese then something must be going wrong somewhere. In order to lose weight, you have to be completely honest about how much you eat and exercise. Even when you keep a food diary or use a food tracking app, it’s easy to forget about the odd snack here and there. Perhaps you pick at ingredients while you make dinner, perhaps you have a few forkfuls of leftovers from the fridge. Perhaps you have a biscuit with your afternoon tea, or sneak a treat at the train station on the way home. It’s often these ‘on the move foods’ that catch us out but they really do add up. Even if you religiously stick to salad for dinner, conveniently ignoring all the things you eat in-between won’t be doing you any favours.

You Ban Food

Like a mysterious box you’re told not to open, cutting food out of your diet can make that food all the more appealing. If you find yourself having a daily face-off with the office cookie jar you’re more likely to want to binge by the end of the week. The key to sustainable weight loss is to learn self-control. If you can train yourself to stick to just one treat every so often, without feeling tempted in-between, then you’ll be able to enjoy your favourite foods without putting on weight.

You Don’t Exercise Enough

Exercise is just as important as diet when it comes to losing weight. Sometimes mental blocks can stop us wanting to exercise, including:

  • feeling a lack of energy
  • feeling too self-conscious to exercise in public
  • not wanting to sweat
  • convincing yourself you’ll ‘go tomorrow’ (every day)

Exercise is definitely a mental thing. Hypnotherapy can help you break down those mental blocks stopping you from making the most of your body. More often than not, getting your body moving and your heart pumping will make you feel better about yourself in general, leading to healthier behaviours and a happier life.

How Does Hypnotherapy For Weight Loss Work?

Hypnotherapy for weight loss is becoming increasingly accepted and, as more people give it a go – more popular. Only recently has hypnotherapy for weight loss been given the credit it deserves. The idea of hypnosis is still met with scepticism due to misconceptions about what it is. It is useful to know that during hypnosis you will not:

  • be out of control
  • be asleep
  • be told to do anything you don’t want to do
  • have your memory erased
  • be forced to reveal your deepest darkest secrets

Hypnotherapy is not some occult art – you won’t be prized open and exploited by your hypnotherapist; you will remain in control throughout your sessions.

So How Does Hypnotherapy For Weight Loss Work?

1. Your hypnotherapist is essentially a coach. He or she will guide you into a state of deep relaxation.

2. Once your body and mind are in relaxation mode (much like a daydream), your hypnotherapist will be able to access your unconscious mind (the part of us that works all the time but that we’re not necessarily aware of i.e. innate instincts and survival mechanisms).

3. Soothing, carefully worded scripts can be used to explore a client’s reasons for overeating and suggest new ways of thinking through visualisations. You have the control to reject any suggestions you don’t feel happy with without any guidance from your hypnotherapist.

4. Over time you will learn how to replace your negative habits and eating patterns with positive ones suggested by your hypnotherapist.

One of the most commonly asked questions in hypnotherapy consultations is – will hypnotherapy work for me? The answer to that is it’s hard to know until you try it yourself. While it certainly won’t work in the same way for everyone, the process of talking about developing good habits and getting rid of bad habits should help plant a new level of awareness when it comes to food and exercise.

Hypnotherapy was classed as an ‘effective’ treatment for weight loss according to the Chambless & Hollen (1998) criteria for ’empirically-supported treatments’ following a review of conditions hypnotherapy can be used to treat.

Hypnotherapy For Weight Loss Techniques

While each case is different because everyone has different reasons for wanting to lose weight, some suggestions you might encounter during hypnotherapy for weight loss include:

  • Envisioning the body you want or the level of fitness/health you wish to achieve
  • Imagining how you will feel with your new look and health
  • Imagining yourself reaching that goal effortlessly
  • See how much you will have improved from today
  • Imagining how energised and confident you will feel
  • Realising that the more you exercise, the more you will want to exercise and the easier it will become to do so
  • Whenever you get the urge to eat something unhealthy, or eat when you’re not hungry, imagine not reaching your goal and think about how that will make you feel

These visualisations and many, many more are designed to empower you so that you can take control of your choices. Hopefully you will learn to enjoy the taste of healthy food and stop craving sugary, fatty things. You should also learn to enjoy your body and not see it as a source of anxiety. By tackling those deep feelings forming the foundations of your eating habits, you can learn to adopt a healthier lifestyle and enjoy doing so.

I offer 2 different ways to help you achieve your lifestyle and weight loss goals so you can make a choice that suits you best and they are both available in face to face therapy or self help via audio downloads.

 

For more information email me on simon@simonmaryan.com or go to the following link to book a session/package and complete the online questionnaire: http://www.simonmaryan1.wordpress.com/booking-page

Researchers Find Boosting Depression-Causing Mechanisms in the Brain Increases Resilience


A new study points to a conceptually novel therapeutic strategy for treating depression. Instead of dampening neuron firing found with stress-induced depression, researchers demonstrated for the first time that further activating these neurons opens a new avenue to mimic and promote natural resilience. The findings were so surprising that the research team thinks it may lead to novel targets for naturally acting antidepressants. Results from the study are published online April 18 in the journal Science.

Researchers from the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai point out that in mice resilient to social defeat stress (a source of constant stress brought about by losing a dispute or from a hostile interaction), their cation channel currents, which pass positive ions in dopamine neurons, are paradoxically elevated to a much greater extent than those of depressed mice and control mice. This led researchers to experimentally increase the current of cation channels with drugs in susceptible mice, those prone to depression, to see whether it would enhance coping and resilience. They found that such boosting of cation channels in dopamine neurons caused the mice to tolerate the increased stress without succumbing to depression-related symptoms, and unexpectedly the hyperactivity of the dopamine neurons was normalized.

Allyson K. Friedman, PhD, Postdoctoral Fellow in Pharmacology and Systems Therapeutics at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and the study’s lead author said: “To achieve resiliency when under social stress, the brain must perform a complex balancing act in which negative stress-related changes in the brain actively trigger positive changes. But that can only happen once the negative changes reach a tipping point.”

The research team used optogenetics, a combination of laser optics and gene virus transfer, to control firing activity of the dopamine neurons. When light activation or the drug lamotrigine is given to these neurons, it drives the current and neuron firing higher. But at a certain point, it triggers compensatory mechanisms, normalizes neuron firing, and achieves a kind of homeostatic (or balanced) resilience.

“To our surprise, we found that resilient mice, instead of avoiding deleterious changes in the brain, experience further deleterious changes in response to stress, and use them beneficially,” said Ming-Hu Han, PhD, at Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, who leads the study team as senior author.

Drs. Friedman and Han see this counterintuitive finding as stimulating research in a conceptually novel antidepressant strategy. If a drug could enhance coping and resilience by pushing depressed (or susceptible) individuals past the tipping point, it potentially might have fewer side effects, and work as a more naturally acting antidepressant.

Eric Nestler, MD, PhD, at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai praised the study. “In this elegant study, Drs. Friedman and Han and their colleagues reveal a highly novel mechanism that controls an individual’s susceptibility or resilience to chronic social stress. The discoveries have important implications for the development of new treatments for depression and other stress-related disorders.”

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Busting A Few Misconceptions About Psychiatry and Mental Health Care


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As I work with clients/patients with mental health issues, I wanted to share some information regarding psychiatry, psychiatric drugs and the pharmaceutical industry, because not all is as you are lead to believe.

This is not to say that it is all bad, there are some excellent psychiatrists doing some excellent work, I think it is just fair to make more people aware of some of the significant points that are misleading for many.

The majority of people assume that psychiatry is just like any other branch of medicine, with objective tests for diagnoses and drug treatments that cure real diseases. In reality however, psychiatric diagnoses and treatments differ enormously from diagnoses and treatments for diseases like cancer or diabetes, since, for mental disorders, there are no known biological ‘diseases’ for psychiatric drugs to ‘treat’.

Below are several Unrecognised Facts about modern psychiatry which every patient, practitioner and policymaker needs to be aware of.

  1. No Known Biological Causes:  There are no known biological causes for any of the psychiatric disorders apart from dementia and some rare chromosomal disorders. Consequently, there are no biological tests such as blood tests or brain scans that can be used to provide independent objective data in support of any psychiatric diagnosis
  2. Myth of the Chemical Imbalance: Psychiatric drugs have often been prescribed to patients on the basis that they cure  ‘a chemical imbalance’. However, no chemical imbalances have been proven to exist in relation to any mental health disorder. There is also no method available to test for the presence or absence of these chemical imbalances
  3. Diagnostic System Lacks Validity: Psychiatric diagnostic manuals such as the DSM and ICD (chapter 5) are not works of objective science, but rather works of culture since they have largely been developed through clinical consensus and voting. Their validity and clinical utility is therefore highly questionable, yet their influence has contributed to an expansive medicalisation of human experience
  4. Psychiatric Drugs Cause Altered Mental States: Just like other substances that affect brain chemistry (such as illicit drugs), psychiatric drugs produce altered mental states. They do not ‘cure’ diseases, and in many cases their mechanism of action is not properly understood
  5. Antidepressants Have No Benefit Over Placebo: Studies have have found that antidepressants have no clinically significant benefit over placebo pills  (inert pills) in the treatment of mild to moderate depression, while they provide some benefit for severe depression, at least in the short term. Recent research also suggests that antidepressants may be associated with with a risk of increased mortality, at least among the elderly
  6. Worse Long-Term Outcomes: There has been little research on the long-term outcomes of people taking psychiatric drugs. The available studies suggest that all the major classes of psychiatric drugs add little additional long-term benefit, and for some patients they may lead to significantly worse long-term outcomes
  7. Long-Lasting Negative Effects: Psychiatric drugs can have long-lasting negative effects on the brain and central nervous systems, particularly when taken long-term, which can lead to physical, emotional and cognitive difficulties
  8. Negative Effects Are Often Misdiagnosed: Psychiatric drugs can have effects that include mental disturbance, including suicide, violence and withdrawal symptoms. These can be misdiagnosed as new new psychiatric presentations, for which additional drugs may be prescribed, sometimes leading to long-term use of multiple different psychiatric drugs in the same person
  9. Psychiatric Drug Withdrawal Can Be Disabling: Withdrawal from psychiatric drugs can be disabling and can cause a range of severe physical and psychological effects which often last for months and sometimes years. In some cases, withdrawal charities, report it may lead to suicide
  10. More Medicating of Children: Use of psychiatric drugs in children and adolescents has been rapidly expanding across the developed world. The potential long-term damage these drugs can have on developing brains has not been properly assessed. Furthermore, there is now some evidence that increased use of medication within this age group is leading to worse long-term outcomes
  11. Regulator Funded By Industry: The UK regulator of psychiatric drugs (the MHRA) is entirely funded by the pharmaceutical industry, and employs ex-industry professionals in key leadership positions. Such conflicts of interest could lead to lenient regulation that places commercial interest above patient protection
  12. Conflicts of Interest: Ties between doctors and the pharmaceutical industry are are particularly widespread in psychiatry. In the UK psychiatrists do not have to report to any agency or authority how much industry income they receive each year
  13. Manipulation and Burying of Drug Trial Data: The majority of psychiatric drug trials are conducted and commissioned by the pharmaceutical industry or those who have extensive ties with them. This industry has a long history of burying negative results, and of manipulating research to highlight positive outcomes

Source reference:

http://cepuk.org/unrecognised-facts/

Nutrition Made Easy


Good food fuels your mind as well as your body and keeps your grey matter in tip top condition, sharp and agile and poor nutrition can lead to all kinds of problems longterm.

If you struggle for ideas for tasty and nutritious meals that will keep you heading in the direction of whatever weightless goals you’ve set your self, well, I now have a facility that any of my clients and subscribers can sign up to to access an online service that provides meal ideas, recipes and advice for a monthly subscription that includes the following:

Food Diary
Lifestyle Questionnaire
Goals & Preferences
Exercise Questionnaire
A variety of useful tools
A library of recipes
Regular updates with new recipes

This online system takes all the hassle of calorie counting and portion size out of the equation for you, it makes life so much easier because everything is automated, you just have to click on buttons to make choices and the magic happens for you.

I can also provide you with a short series of nutritional coaching sessions to help you get the most out of it and ensure that you are not only fuelling your body in the best way possible, but also that you create meals that you love and will want to eat again.

Additionally I can design recipe packs that will deliver the nutritional results that you are looking for, whether they are sports specific or for your own personal life goals.

To have a look and to sign up to something that takes all the hard work out of it for you, apart from cooking it of course, click on the link below and when you are asked to enter your Magic Code type in: simonb2b

http://www.fitproclientrecipes.co.uk/get-started/?hop=simonb2b

Watch the introductory video that will explain the system for you and I know that you will be impressed with how much you get for a small monthly investment that will keep you on track to achieving your health, fitness and lifestyle goals.

P.S. Here are 3 top nutrition tips for you.

Low-fat diets are best –This is simply untrue. A diet crammed full of saturated fat is obviously not conducive to good health, but not all fats are created equal – and this is the most important fact to remember. Polyunsaturated fats found in oily fish and seed oils are absolutely essential to health; from your skin, to your heart to even slimming down healthily and keeping the weight off. Yes you heard right – fats do not make you fat! Eaten in moderation, all fats are preferred sources of fuel for the body, in other words they are not stored as fat. It is sugar that is stored as fat – and very rapidly too. This brings me onto the next important point: low-fat foods like yoghurts, dairy products and hummus are not the healthier option – they are crammed with sugar and artificial chemicals, which are stored as fat, and encourage over-eating! Mono-unsaturated fats found in avocados and nuts are also essential for the body, and an important feature of a healthy diet. It is the saturated fats that require limiting, but absolutely not avoiding. Butter and red meat contain a vital and unrivalled source of nutrients. The only fats to avoid are Trans fats found in processed foods and ‘junk’ food.

Eat lots of fruit: Yes fruit is a healthy food, and an important part of your diet, however it is also packed with the sugar fructose, which although natural, is processed through the liver and can cause damage if eaten in excess. The sugars in fruit also have the same erratic effects on your blood sugar levels as a chocolate bar. A maximum of two or three portions a day is recommended. The main emphasis of your fresh food intake should be on vegetables. Eat as much as possible, and mix it up – think lots of colour and focus on getting plenty of greens like cabbage, watercress, spinach and broccoli.

Eggs are bad for your cholesterol – Eggs do not raise your cholesterol. They are known as ‘perfect foods’ as they contain all the essential amino acids in perfect ratio. Up to 8 a week is perfectly healthy. Eggs may contain cholesterol but they do not affect your levels in a detrimental way. They in fact promote the rise of HDL cholesterol – which is the ‘good’ cholesterol that we need for our bodies to function, and they reduce the levels of LDL cholesterol, which is the damaging ‘bad’ cholesterol. A cholesterol and heart-friendly diet includes plenty of vegetables, fibre, lean proteins, eggs, a little whole grain, essential fats and moderate levels of natural saturated fats from red meat and butter. A diet which is conducive to high ‘bad’ cholesterol levels typically contains high levels of sugar, processed foods, ‘Trans’ fats and refined carbohydrates and little fresh food like vegetables and fibre.

Leave Your Past in the Past 


At various times throughout our lives we can feel overwhelmed with sadness, loss, bitterness, anger etc and it’s hard to believe that your life will ever change, or you’ll ever be able to smile or laugh again. The truth is you will, it won’t always be this bad and there are things you can do to move on with your life in a truly happy and positive way:

1. Choose to face your pain. An unresolved past does not go away. You may think you have buried your anger and pain but the hurt is still there and it will surface later on. If you don’t face what happened and the feelings it unleashed, you will end up being ruled by your subconscious mind. So find the courage and a way to resolve the pain.

2. Accept there’s nothing you can do to change the past. What’s happened has happened, and what’s done is done. There’s nothing you can do to turn back time, however, there are ways such as Timeline Therapy, that enable you to rewrite the story so the ending’s positive for you. And, you can change how you think, and you can start over again, and build a different future that leads you to the life you want to have.

3. Be grateful for the good times. There’s usually something good that you can be thankful for. You don’t have to pretend that everything was bad – or write off any good times and happy memories.

4. Consciously let go and set your focus on the future: All your baggage, failures etc of the past, can affect your identity or self esteem, if you let them. When you see them as opportunities to learn and refine how and who you are, they empower you to become stronger and better equipped to live life to it’s fullest. You are NOT what you did, or how you acted previously. You’re not just a product of what happened to you. You are valuable, unique and you have so much to give. You’re the author of your future; you control your destiny.

5. Remove your past from your future. We can at times have a tendency to think that the past will morph into our future and become our lot in life. That only true if you think that’s true. The future’s a blank page. You can change your expectations and work towards those goals. Instead, look hard for the exceptions, the times when things went right and notice what you did that resulted in success. You still have those same strengths, skills and great qualities and more.

6. Be realistic and take small steps at first. You can’t snap your fingers – and find that life has changed. Accept it will take time, and you will still have some bad days and when you keep on going then the past will lose its grip.

What is Confidence and Where Do We Find It?


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Why is it that some people have it and some people are left wondering… how can I get that? Confidence can be an elusive thing sometimes, particularly when you’re relatively new to something. Now just for a moment, imagine yourself in a situation where you really need to be confident and someone is looking to you for answers, solutions, advise or motivation and you know you can help them. How does that feel? Write a description of what it feels like, where you feel it and where did it come from?

I quite regularly work with clients who are looking for their confidence and I also run workshops on How to Become Confident. My coaching and therapy clients often tell me that they lack a sense of confidence and they want to know how they can raise their level of confidence. The answer I give them is that confidence comes from with in. We have all had the experience of feeling confident. And because of that experience you can find confidence deep inside you and apply it at any given moment. You may be saying to yourself, ‘yeah right’ And the answer to that is Yes, Really!

Confidence can have a profound effect on how your clients see you and whether they will follow your advice or signing up for your service or rave about you to there friends and family. When your confidence shines through in your communication, your clients will have confidence in you.

You can find it in a memory of a time when you felt really confident. Remember when you learned to ride your bicycle, if you were like me you were afraid to let go of the handlebars. Now years later, you get on your bike and talk to your friends, look around and maybe even go over jumps and down steep slopes etc, all without thinking about it. The secret is that the confident memory doesn’t have to relate to your current situation. All you have to do is access that feeling of confidence and wear it like some expensive designer clothes that make you fell really good about yourself.

Of course, I have a technique to get you there and help you to embody that feeling of confidence step by step. The key to having this technique work well is to let go and use your imagination. Your mission is to practice this technique and lete me know your results. Here it is…

1. Close your eyes and imagine a time when you felt really confident.
2. Visualize every thing that is going on around you and make the colors bright.
3. Hear any sounds that were happening at that time.
4. And pay close attention to how you are feeling. The emotions and sensations really count.
5. Imagine this experience of confidence as is it were happening right this moment.
6. Slowly open your eyes and bring this feeling of confidence into this moment in time.
7. Give yourself a personal reminder cue or trigger like a word or signal that will let you bring up this memory when ever you want it.
8. Condition this for yourself by repeating this process at least 10 times.
9. Then when you really need some confidence you can trigger it on cue when ever you want.
10. ENJOY.

Want to know more about my Coaching Training or Coaching Services? They are full of amazing ways to get the client results and client referrals you’ve been looking for. I know personally that I can’t do it alone and you don’t have to either. So I want you to know that I am approachable and work in a way that empowers you to take responsibility for your own development with me just as a guide to keep you on track.

Have fun, be bold and be confident.

Simon 😀