The post Christmas lull

There’s so much build up for Christmas that when it’s all over it can seem quite an anti-climax and often people find themselves feeling bored and lethargic. It can be a great time to start planning what it is you want to achieve in the next 12 months and this comes down to figuring out what’s important to you and why you believe it’s important.

There are a variety of beliefs built into the festive period, some personal, some religious, some spiritual, some financial etc and what we do throughout the year can often be linked into this one day of the year. We spend a great deal of time and effort earning the money to afford the presents we buy and give at Christmas, and I don’t know about you, it seems to me that Christmas has well and truly crossed into the realm of commercialism and has lost a lot of its magic. Whether that’s got anything to do with being in my forties, married and two kids I don’t know, but without kids I think it would be a very different Christmas in our house, then again that’s my belief.

I take this time every year to sit and reflect on the year just gone, have I achieved everything I wanted, if not why not and what are my goals for the next year. I do this for both personal and business goals and this review allows me to figure out what I missed, what I did wrong, what I did right, what went off track and what worked really well.

It’s all about learning, fine tuning and ultimately understanding yourself better and better every year. That is one of the most important aspects for me.

I have long thought life is like a river. It starts small and insignificant with little impact on its surroundings and no idea what’s it’s supposed to do or where it’s supposed to go. Yet it has the unknown, unwavering purpose to make its way towards the ocean where it becomes one with something similar and yet far greater than itself.

On the way it has to forge its path through its environment having to go round, over, under and through a variety of obstacles. It also endures difficult times such as storms where it becomes overpowering and breaks its banks flooding everything around it causing damage and destruction. It carries a lot of debris with it which clouds its water and it loses its clarity.

Sometimes there are droughts and it shrinks, becomes weaker and loses life that depends on it to live with in it as it drys out.

Then as rain comes again the balance is restored, it continues to flow, crystal clear on its journey towards the ocean to achieve its purpose.

Our lives are very similar, we experience hard times of drought or flood on many levels, emotionally, financially, spiritually etc and these can really test our mettle and they give us the opportunity to lean about ourselves and others, stretch our comfort zone to include more than we’ve ever had before. They also teach us how to use what we’ve learned from these life lessons to make life easier.

However, this cycle continues all through our lives and makes for an exciting, surprising, testing and enjoyable experience.

Take the time in this quiet period to reflect, learn and plan the next year of your life and whatever you believe it’s all about, remember its your life to plan out and live in your own way, because, even if you don’t know what your purpose is, yet, there will come a point when it will come to you and it will all start to make so much more sense.

It took me a long time to figure out mine, and I took a few wrong turns along the way, I pursued careers that I thought were ideal for me and maybe they were for a while. That’s ok if you have too, it’s all part of the adventure called life and teaches you valuable lessons along the way.

You can find a free Goal Setting pdf on the Free Stuff page on my blog, so make the most of it, download it and put it to good use.

Best wishes for an awesome 2015


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Simon Maryan

Former Royal Marine and Human Intelligence Specialist. Now an international speaker, author, trainer and coach sharing lessons from a life of action and how to prepare for and overcome trauma and other stressful situations. I've survived 3 kidnapping & all my experience enabled me to develop extremely strong psychological and mental resilience which I share with people through my speaking engagements delivering a variety of Keynote, motivational and inspirational talks for a wide variety of clients internationally. Some of these include UK Military, FBI, New York Police Department, NYPD Hostage Negotiation Team (the home of Hostage Negotiation), oil and gas companies, banks and UK Government departments.

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