Defusing The Power of Limiting Beliefs


How often are you full of good intentions and then never follow through on them?

Maybe you tell yourself it’s about time you made a few changes in your life, but feel you aren’t able to take action.

You may even be passionate about life, but run into countless roadblocks along the way.

When you get to the root cause of your failure, more often than not it is your own limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that are keeping you from your success. In most cases, you are a thought or two away from achieving success. So a single positive change can make all the difference in your life.

As you discover how to disengage yourself both emotionally and mentally from negative thoughts, you’ll watch your potential rise.

Even though it may sound a little strange, you may be surprised how much of an effect your limiting beliefs are having on you, and when you remove their power, you have a chance to dramatically improve your life. I am certain that when you break free from those limiting beliefs you’ll experience 90% of your goals and dreams being reached.

However, don’t anticipate a miraculous overnight transition in how you think and eel. You’ve been feeding negative thoughts and behavioural patterns for years and self-doubt has a hold on you. These years of negativity have an impact on your way of thinking and have impacted your confidence. You will find that when you stick with it, you can begin to experience an extraordinary change in your life.

Those old thought patterns aren’t your fault either. As a child, many of your views of the world stem from the experiences you’ve had and the influences from your parents, family, friends and teachers etc. This includes the belief and expectations for happiness, along with living a passionate life.

Even when you come from a stable, loving family, you can still face these struggles. The limiting beliefs may stem from interactions you’ve had with peers, social pressure or other events that have occurred in your life. As you move forward and you struggle, you begin to experience negative feelings about yourself and soon, you allow those dark thoughts to begin taking control over your life. In some cases, limiting you from ever reaching your full potential as you become self sabotaging because you don’t feel you deserve to achieve your goals. This is quite a common occurrence believe it or not.

As more time passes, these beliefs are further engrained in our minds. They become real to us and they begin to guide our fears. As we become adults, there are additional stresses, disappointments and responsibilities that begin to reaffirm the fears we have. This leads us to justify these limiting beliefs.

I want you to do a quick exercise. Imagine your life where none of the stuff that lead to these engrained limiting beliefs took place. You have a clean slate and all the possibilities of the world are open to you with absolutely no road blocks in your life and you believe can try and achieve anything.

To help you relate to this, think of a time when things went your way, or felt like they were. Even if you weren’t the smartest or most popular, you still were there and life is good, where would you stand? That is important to take into consideration for this.

Another important factor that you must not overlook, is your parents do not control your destiny, you do. Critical parents are often the dream crushers of the world. As an adult, they have no control over what you accomplish. Former teachers and peers who told you that a dream was impossible, they have no power over you either unless you allow it. The only person with any power over your life, unless you are willing to give it to someone else, is you.

Your abilities and skills are yours, so own them. When you accept that and own that, you can begin to transform your life and push yourself harder to reach your goals.

The limiting beliefs in your life aren’t something that can dominate you any longer. Before you know it, you have the enthusiasm and energy to take back control over your life. When you do:

  • You can do all the things your heart dreams of.
  • You can make things happen.
  • You’ll discover that passion for life you once had.
  • You can work past fear and take back your life.

Stop allowing your limiting beliefs to define who you are. Take back your life and realise that living in the past actually negatively impacts your life, and prevents you from finding your true happiness.

To get a better understanding of your own limiting beliefs, it can help to begin asking yourself some probing questions. These questions will give you some insight into why you are thinking the way you do.

15 Questions To Break You Free From Your Own Limiting Beliefs

1. What is your most debilitating limiting belief?
We all have limiting beliefs that hold us back. When you know which one is perhaps the strongest, you can begin to remove it from your life. Do you not feel like you’re good enough? Do you believe you aren’t making enough money? Are you under the impression you are unattractive or not smart? enough

2. Why is this limiting belief there, where did it come from?
This is a question you need to keep asking yourself until you answer it. Begin to write down all the reasons in your mind, regardless of how minor they are. Then keep this list.

3. Is there any evidence which proves this limiting belief wrong?
This is hugely important. There are things in your life, which will prove the limiting belief isn’t true. As you progress through these items, you’ll begin to realise most of the mental road blocks you have created are completely wrong and unfounded.

4. What ways are you not truly alive and engaged in your own life?
If the limiting belief you have prevents you from having a fulfilling and joyful life, make note of it. Create a list of all the areas where this is holding you back and what you can do to change it.

5. How does it make you feel to know you’ve missed out on these areas in your life?
Your feelings are important to recognise embrace. You know you’re missing out and these limiting beliefs are preventing you from truly experiencing your life. Explore these feelings and look at how you can take back control of your life.

6. If these beliefs were no longer there, how would you change your life?
Close your eyes and imagine that these limiting beliefs nom longer existed in your life. How would this change your life for the better? What new goals would you set for yourself? How would you be able to change your life?

7. Do your limiting beliefs have any merit?
Is there actually a case where this belief has any validity to it? What supporting evidence do you have? Write them down.

8. If you answered yes and have evidence, what can you do about it?
Often, there are solutions to the problems and perceptions. If education is legitimately holding you back, go to school. If you need money, raise some money. But find out what is limiting you and find a solution.

9. What is your greatest fear in terms of the outcome of your limiting belief?
Are you concerned with rejection, someone not liking you or simply being humiliated? What is the worst thing that could happen if something goes wrong? Now, what is the best thing that could happen if it goes right?

10. In reality, what is the likelihood of this happening?
Living in a realm of fear, we often believe we are facing something that is the only possibility. When in reality, the chances of the nightmare actually happening are slim to none. So how likely is it that the worst possible scenario will happen?

11. How comfortable would you be with taking chances, despite the uncertainty?
Let’s be realistic, everything you do in life has a risk. There are so many different potential outcomes for every decision you can face and you need to decide if you take the easy route and always succeed and never find happiness. Or, if you take a chance and put things on the line in the hope of making your dreams come true. It’s all about assessing what your options are and are you prepared to take a calculated risk in order to achieve what you want. If you’re not then you probably don’t want your goal as much as you thought. If that’s the case you need to rethink your goal.

12. How are your limiting beliefs impacting past and current relationships?
You need to understand that your beliefs impact your relationships. You need to take a close look at your life and take a look at how your beliefs currently affect your relationships and what can you do to change those beliefs if they are having a negative effect. Equally how can you strengthen beliefs that have a positive effect?

13. Do you think you’d be comfortable taking your list of limiting beliefs and sealing them in an envelope?
When you’ve done this, you put them on hold and pretend they are not real. As you begin to work away from those old limiting beliefs, you can imagine living your life as if you’ve never had them and that your life has been and will continue to be full of opportunities and achievement.

14. What is the most pressing or compelling goal you have that you wished you could accomplish?
This is an important question to ask yourself. What is the one thing that your limiting belief/s has kept you away from? If you were to remove the belief, could you achieve that goal? Is it something you’d truly like to work towards?

15. List 3 – 5 manageable goals you can do this week that move you closer to your ultimate goal, while the limiting beliefs are sealed away in the envelope.
For the exercise to work, you need to commit fully to the experience. You need to take action to move away from those old limiting beliefs and to work towards your goals. As you better isolate those old limiting beliefs and take back control of your life you’ll find you enjoy life so much more.

As you continue to follow through with this plan, you’ll find you are able to achieve a great deal more success. In today’s modern world, you have an endless array of possibilities available to you, as long as you let go of your old limiting beliefs.

Routinely go through the steps above and do what you can to continue to progress forward. Within a few weeks of following these steps you’ll discover that you do have the power inside of yourself to make the changes necessary in your life. Then you can begin to work towards making all of your dreams a reality.

If you would like to really drive this home and reset your beliefs so that they work for you as opposed to against you, drop me an email and we can discuss how to do this with a Transformational Belief Change Coaching Session via Skype. Along with this session you will receive the following free gifts:

  • Complimentary ebook pack selected specifically for you that will help keep you moving forwards towards your goals
  • Life Design Manual in PDF
  • Free Hypnosis Audio Download

To discuss in more detail and to book your session email me on: simon@simonmaryan.com

To your continued happiness and success

Simon

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