Mind-Matters Series Video #10: Refresh Your Mind & Body


This is a short video about refreshing your mind by moving your body. It’s based on the simple principle off doing something positive for yourself when you feel good and making it a habit, because when it becomes a habit, it makes it much easier and more natural do something positive for yourself when you feel negative or unwell.

Get started today no matter how you feel and begin to make your new habit.

 

ICARUS: Please Help to Share Who We Are and What We Do


This is just a quick post to ask all of my wonderful 10,477 followers who will see this messsage to please click the link below and click Like on the new Facebook page for the not for profit organisation that I have set up with my friend and colleague David Bellamy.

It will make a massive difference for us to have every one of you liking and sharing our page as it will help us achieve our aim of helping as many people as possible in the UK’s uniformed services that are struggling with mental health concerns and don’t know where to turn, have been dropped by other providers or even turned away. Sadly yes this does happen.

So please help us by hitting over 10K likes and just imagine how many people we can reach if you all share the page too, mind blowing possibilities.

Thanks for reading and helping us make a huge difference for so many people that need what we do.

Click below and make a difference

Icarus Online Facebook Page

Simon

ICARUS Online


As there has been a lot of work, conversations, research and thought gone into the free helpline that we set up in January, and with our efforts to reform the military charities sector and close the excessively large gaps in the system, I thought an update was in order to let everyone know  what’s going on.

I had a great conversation with Lord Dannatt last month and he is in full agreement with our purpose in setting up the free helpline (which has morphed into a treatment line, more on that shortly) and what we are doing and has kindly given his full support and backing ongoing.

Meanwhile my friend and colleague David Bellamy has been communicating with General Peter Currie, General Andrew Graham, General Sir John McColl, chariman of COBSEO and Colonel David Richmond, chairman of the Contact Group set up by Prince Harry, they too are in agreement that the militray charities sector needs shaking up, tightening up and reforming which is now beginning to happen.

David Bellamy is an extraordinary man with one hell of a life behind him. He was in the British Army and served in Dhofar in the 70’s during the Secret War. He has worked as a commercial diver, worked for Lloyds of London and was instrumental in setting up their first Kidnap and ransom insurance package. David, like myself was trained by Stephen Brooks, the founder of British Hypnosis Research and Training Institute and is the worlds best teacher of Ericksonian Hypnosis and Psychotherapy.

It has lead to a slight adjustment in our plan and the development of a name for this not for profit organisation we have created. So we are now called ICARUS, which stands for Immediate Care, Assessment and Rehabilitaion for Uniformed Services, which means we cover all branches of the military and emergency services because there are many veterans working in the civilian uniformed services that deal with horrendous situations on a regular basis and also may well need our help.

The history behind ICARUS is the ancient Greek story of Icarus and his father Daedalus who told his son not to fly too close to the sun with his homemade wings of feathers and wax as the heat from the sun would melt the wax and he would fall into the sea and drown. So the story is about high flying ambition, which is what we have for the accessibility of the best treatment for all uniformed services and veterans. The psychological element of it, the Icarus Complex, which is about the highs and lows of what used to be called Manic Depression and is now Bipolar Disorder, our aim is to help anyone in the uniformed services with a mental illness to learn to deal with it and live a full, happy and successful life for them.

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We wanted to be a not for profit becasue there are already 350 plus military charities in a system that is unregulated, poorly structured at present, and with no standards required to be fulfilled and is in desperate need of an overhaul. This is by no means meant to undermine the extraordinary and excellent work being done by so many in this sector, purely that it can be tightened up and improved so that people do not fall through the net, are not turned away or dropped because they are unable to commit to systems that are far too rigid for people with mental illness. And yes this does happen because these are precisely the people I have been treating for over ten years now.

The helpline is now a treatment line to fit with our new name and purpose, although we will provide any help we can in the process. We offer virtual treatment via phone, skype or any other form of video call to speed up access to help, as well as face to face treatment where possible. We are currently working on building a national network of therapists to assist us so if you are interested in getting involved or know someone who might be then please get in touch with me on simon@simonmaryan.com 

Access to our services is open to anyone. In principle, no one will be refused. There will be no discrimination on grounds of length of service, reason for discharge, medical condition or disability, age, physical disability, gender, marriage and civil partnership, pregnancy or maternity, race, religion or belief, sex, sexual orientation, political or other opinion. This is a free service open to all service personnel as set out in our constitution which you can find below.

ICARUS Constitution 28.02.18

The phone number stays the same 0800 689 0864

We are also having a website designed that will list all our therapists, each with a personal bio explaining what they do and how they work. All our therapists will be associates, they will be vetted and cleared by us to ensure that they have the appropriate insurance etc for the therapies they provide. The website is being designed by David Bellamy’s wife Mishi who is an amazing artist, so we are extremely fortunate to have this wonderful lady helping us out. Take a look at her fantastic work here: https://www.mishibellamy.net

We also have a gentleman called Stephen Finlayson who is coming on board to help us promote our services, reach more people and deliver what is needed to those that need. Stephen showed his huge heart and compassion a few years ago when he helped a homeless guy in his hometown of Carlisle, this man, Phil,  turned out to be a veteran as well and Stephen helped him find somewhere to stay, put him in touch with the Royal British Legion and thankfully he is back on his feet, has a home, a job and a girflriend. Phil now helps veterans and is paying back in his own way. This story was covered in a documentary by the BBC and is quite emotional viewing.

Thanks to David Bellamy, we have one very interested coroporate sponsor who is keen to help us deliver our services and we are obviously looking for more to make sure that this not for profit can provide as much assisstance to those serving and veterans struggling with any form of mental illness, to live their lives to their fullest and be happy, functional and succeed. Another part of what we provide is ongoing coaching and mentoring for those that receive treatment from us for as long as they need, and also training those that are interested in becoming a qualified therapist, coach and mentor so that they are then capable of helping others that are in the same situation they used to be in.

If you are interested in helping us with sponsorship, donations or have any suggestions about people, organisations to speak to then please get in touch either through the phone number 0800 689 0864 or by email simon@simonmaryan.com

We are also approaching a few universities with the aim of having our program of treatment as a whole, independently monitored and assessed in order to garner external verification that what we do works. We know it does yet it is hugely beneficial to have that independant review and reassuring for those we help.

So lots has been done, lots is happening and lots still to do. Keep your eyes peeled for more updates as we make more and more progress.

Please like, share and comment with your thoughts and any ideas you have for us.

Thanks

Simon

 

Mind-Matters Series Video #7: Mental Stretch


This is a really simple visualisation exercise that connects mind and body.

Stand up and point your arm straight out in front of you. Now keeping your feet and hips still, rotate your upper body until you can’t go any further and note how far you got.

Now return to your starting position and close your eyes. Imagine doing it it again but imagine turning further and in your mind keep turning until you have rotated a full 360 degrees. Then unwind back round to your star position and repeat this 5 times.

Now open your eyes and do it once again physically and notice how much further you can go. I am certain that you will find that you can rotate much further round Now after visualising yourself doing just that.

How many other ways do you think you can apply this type of visualisation and benefit from it? Let me know how yup this kid you can use it and adapt it for yourself.

Simon

Mind-Body Matters Series #6: Full Body Scan


This a wonderfully simple and effective exercise that really connects mind and body.

Remember to begin with at least 3 big, deep breaths and use this deep breathing as you visualise breathing out through those areas of tension and discomfort and melting them away.

Make a note of the areas of the deepest tension and discomfort and then once you have completed one full scan, go back and pay special attention to the areas of tension you need to focus on the most. Keep repeating this process until you have eased all the areas of tension and discomfort and feel relaxed and at ease.

You will find that through the deep breathing, the visualisations and the easing of tension you will strengthen your mind-body connection, awareness and communication and feel so much better for it.

I recommend doing this at least twice a day, once first thing in the morning before you go to work and once before you get home at the end of each day.

Have fun exploring with this exercise and as always let me know how you get on.

Simon

Being Sceptical and Open Minded


Yesterday I had a comment from a lady who had watched the video of a session I did with a client where I used my Emotional Release Technique. This lady’s name is Paula and she followed along with my instructions as the video played and in her comment she admits that she was sceptical before hand as she did not believe it would be so simple or so effective. Here’s her comment:

“So impressed! I did this along with the video & was amazed that it does actually work,

this is not set up or fake at all. No disrespect but I was sceptical & could not understand

how this was possible & that maybe she was deliberately moving her arms but I was soooo

wrong! My arms actually moved with the negative & positive thoughts. It was an

overwhelming realisation that I have so many strengths & qualities but was overburdened

with a sense of not being good enough & being insecure. That has now changed! I burst in

to tears when focusuing on the distance between the two but that was because I realised

with so much clarity how much i was holding myself back by allowing negativity being so

dominant. I feel so free & unburdened now & will definitely use this often to redress the

balance & reafirm the positive. such a profoundly amazing feeling of calm, feeling light &

happy. So Simple yet so effective, wish I’d discovered it sooner! Thank you!! 🙂 x”

I completely agree with her initial doubts and scepticism, I think it’s important to be sceptical and not walk headlong into things that you have no evidence to prove or disprove it. It is also important to have an open mind and test things out so that you can prove or disprove it for yourself, this is how we progress and learn as human beings, we test theories, we study and test other peoples strategies, how they work and see if they work for us as well.

So be sceptical and keep an open mind or you could miss out on some amazing experiences and not learn something extremely valuable for you. Paula wouldn’t have had the amazing experience she had if she hasn’t kept an open mind and would not have learnt a valuable skill that she now has for the rest of her life.

Here’s the video again so you can watch it and maybe even try it out for yourself.

Mind-Body Matters Series Video #3: How To Set Effective Goals To Set you Up For Success


Welcome to the third instalment in the Mind-Body Matter Series.This one does what it says on the tin, it’s all about how to set goals so that you can be more effective in the process and be more successful at what you want to achieve.

I have just updated a free ebook all about how to create effective goals that set you up to succeed, all you have to do is click on the link and download your free copy.

It has exercises in it that help you out the theory into practice and if you get stuck just drop me a message and we can arrange a time to chat through it and get you moving again.

How To Set Effective Goals To Set You Up For Success

Once you’ve worked your way through the workbook and completed all the exercises, drop me a message and let me know how you got on and if I can help you in any way.

Have fun with it.

Simon

 

Mind-Body Matters Series Video #2: The Power of a Smile


Smiling is simple, it’s free, there’s no equipment needed yet we often overlook it’s value in terms of our physical and psychological health.

Smiling changes your physiology; posture, your body language. It reduces stress, it leads to laughter and makes you feel good because it stimulates the release of your feel good hormones. So do it and fake that smile to start with until it just happens.

I’ve put together this short little video to get you started, have fun with it and let me know how you get on.

 

 

Here’s a list of hormones that make you happy and a few other ideas to get you going.

Serotonin:
Serotonin is sometimes called the happiness hormone. Serotonin regulates the mood, prevents depression and makes you feel happy. Serotonin can be released by getting exposed to sunlight, by eating foods rich in carbohydrates and by exercising.

Endorphins:
Endorphins can make you feel good, reduce your anxiety and your sensitivity to pain. Endorphins are released by exercising.

Dopamine:
Dopamine helps you to feel mentally alert. The lack of it might cause lack of attention, lack of concentration and bad moods. Dopamine can be released by eating foods that are rich in protein.

Phenylethamine:
Phenylethamine is the hormone that results in the feelings we get in the early stages of a relationship. Cocoa beans contain Phenylethamine. eating chocolate might be helpful too.

Ghrelin:
Gherlin is a hormone that reduces stress and can help you become more relaxed. Ghrelin is released when we become hungry that’s why eating too much is not always a good idea. Just eat according to your body’s needs and never fill your stomach completely in order to maintain good Ghrelin levels.

Free Videos


 

As I am now beginning to sort through and upload my new video series, Mind-Body Matters, I wanted to remind you that the videos page on my website is completely free and is about to expand rapidly with even more free training and educational videos on a variety of topics.

If there’s anything that you liked in particular let me know what it was that struck a chord with you, and if there is any subject that you would like me to cover let me know what it is and I will do my best to put something together for you.

In the meantime enjoy the videos and keep your eyes peeled for updates on the new ones.

Click here to access the Free Videos

Simon