Do you want a happier and more successful life?
Two people can see the same situation and come to completely different opinions about it. In fact, most people do. Our opinions affect our lives more often than most other things. Some people see their family and enjoy the good feelings and happy times they can spend with them, and so they focus on developing these positive relationships and find themselves not only having a good time, but getting far closer than ever before in the process. On the flip side, the same situation may bring about feelings of fear, animosity, and anxiety in another person. So why is this? The answer is simple. One person has a positive outlook on their life, seeing each change as an opportunity and the other sees it as a trial that must be fought against. What if there was a way to change that person’s opinion?
There is no contest as to which is more productive in creating a better life. People throughout history with positive constructive outlooks on life and the ability to work through challenges have found themselves in the history books celebrated for their apparent deep inner wisdom. People who victimised themselves and others, and were driven mad by their environments have also been recorded by history, but generally in a far different way.
But what is the secret to uncovering this deep inner beauty that radiates outward? You’ll find the answer to be surprisingly simple. Since 90% of happiness comes from within and can be generated without external forces, it seems the true cause of people being unhappy isn’t generated in the world around them, but rather in their own minds. And as we interact with others the very act of making others happy within your own mind can give you exactly what you need to start bettering the lives of those around you. And how do you generate it in your mind? Through repetitive, conscious action to begin with, changing your thoughts from negative to positive when you catch yourself going off track, and I guarantee you will to begin with because the old way of thinking is so engrained, it’s a habit and nothing more. The beauty of it is we can learn new habits to replace the old, outdated ones.
Cynicism in our lives can help us sometimes. It helps us spot problems we would otherwise miss. However, those of us with a spiritual connection (this does not mean mean religious, just in case your thinking that) with their brains know how to use the caution our brain affords us without having to pay for it when we can be feeling good about ourselves. Cynicism is not designed to make us dislike how our own lives are going, it is there as a defence mechanism. Cynical people suffer when the behaviour moves from their working memory to the amygdala where habitual and emotional behaviour is stored. A person with a healthy level of caution will not engage in a behaviour that may lower the quality of their life while an overly cynical person may avoid most situations, assuming they will cause them harm “somehow.” Cynicism in this case causes a great deal of stress and suffering to those who engage in it habitually.
There is good news though. Just as our brains can be rewired by stressful events (events we may not even remember consciously) it can be changed so that a new system within the brain is given priority. In this case we lose all the negative aspects of cynicism and none of the positive ones.
Do you feel that you are one of those people who suffer from constant bad luck? Do you naturally distrust people even if they show no reason to distrust them? Do you look for the faults in others as well as yourself, focusing on them instead of the good? If you said yes to any of these, then you’re exactly who this system is written for.
Stop feeling the pain of shutting everyone out of your life. You can change it all and start enjoying the world just as you always knew you could. Interestingly, many who use my “Power of Positivity” Audio Training Program describe it as changing the way they see the world around them. There is one key point here and that is that the world is not changing, just the way they perceive it. So, change your mind and live the life you deserve. All of us deserve to live happy.
Points to Consider:
1. Those with a better outlook on life improve the lives of everyone around them.
2. Cynicism is a learned behavior. Optimism is the same way.
3. Misery loves company. Don’t look to cynics for happiness. Look within yourself.