It Takes Perseverance to Conquer Your Mountains



It’s been a personally tough time over the last eighteen months with a huge dip in business due to the impact of the state of the oil and gas industry in the north east of Scotland and the quite significant tsunami of destruction that it sent outwards. It’s been tough particularly recently with injuries, surgery and personal issues to sort out and with not being able to drive at the moment and with not sleeping well after having my shoulder repaired yet again, I have had plenty of time to think about what’s going on and look for ways to resolve the problems. I have looked back at how I resolved other problems in my life, what I did and what it took for me to resolve them. 

It’s actually something I enjoy doing, taking time in the early hours, a way to spend some time for myself and get refocused. This morning I found myself focusing on what it takes to be successful in any endeavour and I kept coming back to the word perseverance.

Being a Royal Marine took a huge amount of perseverance and there were times in training, the few times you get any time to yourself,which was usually sat on the toilet, where I thought to myself ‘what the fuck am I doing here, this is insane?!!’
 8 months of patience and staying focused and I finally completed Royal Marines Basic Training and I can not tell you how amazing that feels when it’s done and you are handed your Green Beret.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a military training course, a black belt or a weight loss/ body composition goal… at the very heart of it is perseverance.
Since then I’ve completed many courses, some extremely physically demanding, some mentally and some a mix of both. Since then I’ve set myself challenges in business and in my personal life and almost everything I set my heart on achieving I have achieved so far. There have been some heroic failures along the way and some goals I haven’t yet reached and no matter how frustrating that is I never lose sight of what I’m aiming for, well, not completely anyway. 

This is what got me thinking this morning, I realised I have lost my way a little recently, I’ve lost sight of what I’m aiming for in business and in my personal life. I’ve begun to doubt myself. Doubt whether I really want what I’d set myself, doubt my ability to even get anywhere near it. I felt myself feeling like giving up because it’s taking too much out of me. Needless to say this morning was a bit of an emotional roller coaster that left me reeling, spinning and not knowing the difference between my arse and my elbow. In all honesty I found it a bit disturbing.
I haven’t felt like this in a long time and I was in a similar situation then as well so in hindsight, it’s not surprising that I flipped back in time to that same emotional state.
I’ve had to dig deep into my reserves of perseverance many times in my life. I’ve lost my way before and at one point I was fat and out of shape, disillusioned, angry, probably depressed and a nightmare to live with.
So this afternoon as I have done before, I made the decision to change the track of my thoughts, and as it was before, it wasn’t easy. But I persevered and I still am.

 So what does it take. Some magical ability to simply head down a road with your blinkers on and just get shit done?

Not entirely, although at times this can help too.
 There is a system involved which ultimately allows you to persevere through anything. It’s a mindset that you must be willing to adopt.

The mindset is comprised of a few key elements. These include grit, determination, optimism and realism.
 The process runs like this:

You set your goal – It doesn’t matter what it is. Whether it’s passing a course or losing 60 lbs. 

You make your plan and begin to take the small steps toward it every single day, until you arrive there. What happens in the middle is called perseverance, it’s not reserved for the super-elite. We can all learn this life altering trait.

 

Grit, determination, optimism and realism are the foundation of perseverance.

 Let me talk you through them to see if you might have these traits hiding inside you too. (I’ll let you into a little secret…yes you do)

 The dictionary defines Grit as having courage, resolve and strength of character. Icon early think that grit is an awesome word and very apt.

Courage is simply having fear and pushing through it no matter what and harassing and channelising that energy to drive you towards your goal.
Resolve is the mental strength and strength of character is knowing that once you commit to something, you must do what you say you will do. Keeping the promise to yourself most importantly and then to others secondly.
 Determination is having a firmness of purpose. You make your decision to achieve your goal and you will not be swayed.

Optimism is having hopefulness and confidence about what it is that you are doing and that you will be successful. It doesn’t matter if you are in a body transformation phase or seeking a promotion at work. If you are optimistic about it, that energy is carried throughout your body and to those around you.
Realism is the attitude and practice of taking something as it is and moving forward accordingly. For example, you missed a workout…who cares, we all do. Get back on the train and continue moving forward.
 Now not all of you will be able to relate to this yet some of you will. Can you imagine for a second what it would take to persevere through an armed conflict or a lengthy battle with a determined enemy. Even the residual issues many soldiers and medics face upon arriving home having been exposed to multiple atrocities, suffering the mental anguish and pushing through it to continue to serve their fellow man.

 Our country was built on the backs of soldiers who could persevere, and having been one I know what it takes…and the fact is you can do it too… Every soldier would want you to learn that from them.

 So this week be thankful and learn to apply the elements that make up the recipe for perseverance, dish yourself up a large serving and use it to get you through whatever you set your mind to.

 Be bold, be strong, be brave, persevere and fight for what you want in this life.

Simon

Creating the Mindset for Success


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Do you want a happier and more successful life?

Two people can see the same situation and come to completely different opinions about it. In fact, most people do. Our opinions affect our lives more often than most other things. Some people see their family and enjoy the good feelings and happy times they can spend with them, and so they focus on developing these positive relationships and find themselves not only having a good time, but getting far closer than ever before in the process. On the flip side, the same situation may bring about feelings of fear, animosity, and anxiety in another person. So why is this? The answer is simple. One person has a positive outlook on their life, seeing each change as an opportunity and the other sees it as a trial that must be fought against. What if there was a way to change that person’s opinion?

There is no contest as to which is more productive in creating a better life. People throughout history with positive constructive outlooks on life and the ability to work through challenges have found themselves in the history books celebrated for their apparent deep inner wisdom. People who victimised themselves and others, and were driven mad by their environments have also been recorded by history, but generally in a far different way.

But what is the secret to uncovering this deep inner beauty that radiates outward? You’ll find the answer to be surprisingly simple. Since 90% of happiness comes from within and can be generated without external forces, it seems the true cause of people being unhappy isn’t generated in the world around them, but rather in their own minds. And as we interact with others the very act of making others happy within your own mind can give you exactly what you need to start bettering the lives of those around you. And how do you generate it in your mind? Through repetitive, conscious action to begin with, changing your thoughts from negative to positive when you catch yourself going off track, and I guarantee you will to begin with because the old way of thinking is so engrained, it’s a habit and nothing more. The beauty of it is we can learn new habits to replace the old, outdated ones.

Cynicism in our lives can help us sometimes. It helps us spot problems we would otherwise miss. However, those of us with a spiritual connection (this does not mean mean religious, just in case your thinking that) with their brains know how to use the caution our brain affords us without having to pay for it when we can be feeling good about ourselves. Cynicism is not designed to make us dislike how our own lives are going, it is there as a defence mechanism. Cynical people suffer when the behaviour moves from their working memory to the amygdala where habitual and emotional behaviour is stored. A person with a healthy level of caution will not engage in a behaviour that may lower the quality of their life while an overly cynical person may avoid most situations, assuming they will cause them harm “somehow.” Cynicism in this case causes a great deal of stress and suffering to those who engage in it habitually.

There is good news though. Just as our brains can be rewired by stressful events (events we may not even remember consciously) it can be changed so that a new system within the brain is given priority. In this case we lose all the negative aspects of cynicism and none of the positive ones.

Do you feel that you are one of those people who suffer from constant bad luck? Do you naturally distrust people even if they show no reason to distrust them? Do you look for the faults in others as well as yourself, focusing on them instead of the good? If you said yes to any of these, then you’re exactly who this system is written for.

Stop feeling the pain of shutting everyone out of your life. You can change it all and start enjoying the world just as you always knew you could. Interestingly, many who use my “Power of Positivity” Audio Training Program describe it as changing the way they see the world around them. There is one key point here and that is that the world is not changing, just the way they perceive it. So, change your mind and live the life you deserve. All of us deserve to live happy.

Points to Consider:

1.  Those with a better outlook on life improve the lives of everyone around them.
2.  Cynicism is a learned behavior. Optimism is the same way.
3.  Misery loves company. Don’t look to cynics for happiness. Look within yourself.